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Do you give too much of yourself?

Are you the kind of person who gives too much while other people often disappoint you? Here is a list of ideas (to turn to) that will help you get through this Christmas giving yourself more love and respect than you probably do usually.

  1. Choose a small present to give yourself that shows that you know and like who you are.
  2. Hide something away like a book or piece of music that you can look forward to listening to when you get some time on your own.
  3. Take some time to sit and watch nature or have a short nap.
  4. Take time to remember your favorite Christmas memories without sharing them with anyone.
  5. Look up at the sky and let out a big sigh.
  6. Excuse yourself from people who rob you of your inner inner calm and confidence, be polite and say where you are going and when you will be back if they will be waiting.
  7. Give a child or teenager who needs one a genuine compliment.
  8. Start the day with a big glass of psyllium and water.
  9. Take a few minutes to look at something that always makes you laugh.
  10. Ask people you want closer open ended questions.
  11. Have a glass of vegetable juice.
  12. Be honest with yourself about your own faults and accept yourself anyway.
  13. Put on an outfit that makes you feel good.
  14. Take the dog for a walk with a frisbee.
  15. Have a genuine compliment ready for everyone in your family.
  16. Slow down your breathing. Time the gap between breaths (discretely) with your pulse and see how much you can slow down your heart beat and breathing.
  17. Remember your favorite dream before you go to sleep.
  18. Don’t eat things that have made you feel bad in the past.
  19. Stretch like a cat when no one is looking.
  20. Close your eyes and smile to yourself no matter what is happening.
  21. Have an exit plan ready if people around you become difficult. Make an excuse to leave and let them know where you are going and when you will return and also tell them that you love them.

Take Care and Hang in There!

 

Kim Cooper

Kim is the author of seven books on the topic of relationships and emotional intelligence.

A prolific multi-media content innovator, Kim has created and shared a library of articles and multi-media educational tools including radio shows,
movies and poetry on 'The NC Marriage', and 'The Love Safety Net'.

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  2. Kim,

    Thanks a lot for all of the resources you and Steve have provided that have helped me through the past few years. Our relationship is still rocky, but at least I feel more at peace than I did before and the violence stopped. The list you provided to help through christmas really makes me realize how much I have learned to love myself because I have been doing a lot of those things! I will have to make a conscious effort to do #6 though.

    Again, thank you and Merry Christmas!

    1. Hey Jessica, Yes 6 is a tough one for me too – but slowly I am learning the truth which is that there is no one to impress except for myself (in terms of my own challenges for myself) 🙂 I am glad to hear the violence has stopped and hope that in the New Year we can help you start smoothing out some of those bumps in the road! It will be time for New Year’s resolutions soon – but today it is Christmas! Have a wonderful day 🙂

  3. I had a great Xmas and new year, thanks to Kim and Steve advice and knowledge, I have told them already. Apart from this post, now I’m telling you all the same thing.
    I put in place the reality and restrictions we all have to live by, in order to move ahead.
    Prior to Xmas and new year holiday family time I had done this, the same restrictions, rules and consequences,
    Unwavering
    My husband was happy he got his Xmas cheer
    My stepchildren were happy they finally had a code of normal conduct that they understood to abide by.
    My children were happy that had something that was normal for them
    Happy family happy life…. Lol apposed to happy wife happy life, that Steve you will know. Xx
    2016 still more of the same my family because I love you all.
    Thankyou Kim and Steve xx

    1. Thank you for sharing Kim! I am so glad that your home life is settling into something warm and productive.

      If you chart out your progress in The Love Safety Net Workbook it will really help you get on top of setbacks when (and if) they occur!

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