Do You Command Respect?
The person who wrote, “Sticks & stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me.” obviously never lived with verbal abuse. Quite simply, words can and do hurt.”
For years I lived on the receiving end of insults, verbal aggression and sarcasm. I am embarrassed to say I was often guilty of these myself.
My skill at avoiding put-downs (and ability to keep my mouth shut) has improved over the years, which has certainly expanded my circle of influence.
If you are struggling to command respect in your life, I hope I get the chance to share what I have learned with you. I know what it is like to be stuck feeling continually put down and not understand why this keeps happening. It is a terrible place to be. So today I have revised, updated and re-released a series of 7 articles on handling verbal abuse.
Don’t Leave ‘Next Time’ to Luck
The first thing you must understand is that any way of dealing with verbal abuse which relies on analysing a conversation in progress is simply not going to work. Our amygdala (emotional brain) is lightening fast compared to our analytical brain (prefrontal cortex) and so when our buttons get pushed emotionally, we will always find ourselves reacting long before our ‘best brain’ gets the chance to think about what we are doing or saying.
Just hoping you will instinctively do better ‘next time’ will never work.
Do you wish to improve your skill in handling situations where you often face insults or disrespect? If so you will need to spend time contemplating the situations where this usually happens. Then start working on new strategies to practise that will no longer leave ‘next time’ up to luck.
You will need to practice and reinforce these new responses if you want to make them work in real life.
This probably sounds like hard work. Working on better responses, however, will vastly improve your life in ways nothing else will.
We Want to Help!
Do you want to be loved and respected?
Have you had enough of being put down?
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Here’s to you being loved and respected for who you are . . .
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