Step 1 – Tame Yourself First
If you want to tame the narcissist in your life you are going to have to do some serious work getting ready.
Because taming your narcissist partner is about changing the dynamic of your relationship and so this needs to start with you …
(this clip is an excerpt from the documentary Giant Leap: What About Me? Please watch through to the end.)
Most important is that you cannot tame a narcissist just because you want them to fill an emotional hole inside you. You need to fill that hole yourself.
That hole is sometimes called codependency
I used to think overcoming my codependency would mean I had to learn to live by myself . . . But eventually I learned it meant the opposite.
Because ever since I have overcome my codependence I have never been alone.
Research has determined that kindness and self respect are what people really find attractive in a partner, but self respect is not only about confidence.
It is about making sure you have someplace in your life that you feel safe – and keeping that space clean and nice.
It is about knowing when it is time to go home and enjoy being alone with yourself (or your kids) when you need to. Without drugs, TV or even books to keep you company.
It is about knowing when you need to take time out to take care of yourself and learning to be comfortable in your own skin.
It is about learning how to wait and let the future unfold as it will and enjoy being here right now. Not forever thinking your bliss lies in the future or the past.
Having self respect makes us attractive. It also helps us trust in ourselves, even when other people let us down.
So this is ironic I know – but really you need to learn to be okay being by yourself if you are ever going to have influence with anyone else.
We have a very short ebook and mp3 download or CD to assist you with this …
Because taming a narcissist is something that is going to take courage and strength of character and so first you are going to need to work on yourself.