Read Him Emotionally Instead . . .
I cringe when I think of all the times in the past I would ask Steve, “What are you thinking?”
I guess I should forgive myself because, back then, I didn’t know what I do now.
I didn’t always suspect he was thinking about someone else . . . mostly, I was just worried he didn’t look happy or that he didn’t look interested in me.
And even worse . . .
When the truth was right there in front of me, far too often I would quiz him about what he was feeling.
I saw that he was bored, but because I had no idea what to do about it, I just couldn’t face what was written all over his face.
I was feeling worried, scared, jealous and sometimes even unlovable. My emotions where so mixed up and painful that all I could do was dumbly ask, “What are you thinking?” Even when I knew it would probably lead to a fight.
Jumping forward, Steve still looks bored and unhappy sometimes but now I can usually read what he is feeling and, most of the time, have a pretty good idea of how to respond.
What changed (and made all the difference in the world) was making the decision to improve my emotional intelligence. Because if you cannot identify your own emotions and the messages they are signalling to you, how on earth will you ever ‘read’ or understand anyone else?
Emotions aren’t always simple (and the message isn’t always what you think). So, once I got started, there was tons I needed to learn.
Today, I want to begin sharing the journey I took that led me from being emotionally snow-blind (and asking questions that only drove Steve away) to having the emotional competence to not only manage our relationship better but also manage and keep the love flowing in our house full of teenage kids.
To learn how to walk first, you must learn how to crawl. This is why we have put together a step-by-step online journey that will educate you about your emotions (and what they are signalling). This will help you learn how to ‘read’ and respond to other people’s emotions as well.
We have called this tutorial, “The Love Safety Net Love Boat Cruise”, and it has recently been updated and revised.
Do you know how to negotiate with your partner?
Do you even know what you really want?
It has been proven without question that most of us are very bad at guessing what will make us happy in the future. This is one area in particular where learning to understand what you are feeling (and what that is signalling) can be an invaluable guide.
But that does not mean you should let your emotions hold sway over you, overwhelm you or hold you to ransom (far from it) we will be sharing some very good advice on this as well.
To learn more about this tutorial and to take your first step on this journey please visit the page here . . .
The Love Safety Net Love Boat Cruise
We have tons to share with you so don’t be slow in jumping on board!
Are you ready to get started? a 13 part series of movies and written transcripts, delivered weekly by email, where you will learn what your emotions are telling you and how to best regulate them for success in love and in your life.
The Love Boat Cruise . . .
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I’m in the right place, you obviously did berkeley’s science of happiness 🙂