Today we will discuss another type of defense you may come up against. But first I should share that the aim of these articles is not to judge anyone, but to help you become aware of defensive behaviour and continue practicing ways to bring you back to expressing your authentic self.
"They never talk to me", is the most common complaint I hear from codependents about their marriage partner. I find this especially sad, because this person rarely sees how deep and tragic their wound. This subject is so sad, I…
I've heard it said if you don’t discover what a new person you meet is genuinely passionate about within the first few minutes of talking to them—you are unlikely to ever form a lasting connection. I would take this even…
In our last lesson, I talked about SR's. These are standard responses or stories that people tell over and over again. In today's lesson, I am going to share two techniques that will encourage the person you are conversing with…
How Emotional Baggage From Your Past is Affecting Your Marriage Today Emotional Baggage Begins with Emotionally charged Events I remember a scene from my mothers 50th birthday, when an old friend of my mother, famous for being both very rich and very rude,…
I cringe when I think of all the times in the past when I would ask Steve, "What are you thinking?"
I guess I should forgive myself because, back then, I didn't know what I do now.
I didn't always suspect he was thinking about someone else . . .
mostly, I was just worried he didn't look happy or that he didn't look interested in me.
Our human lifestyle has changed dramatically in the hundred and fifty years since the industrial revolution. We now spend more and more time away from our family, often working alone, rather than in the fields where men once worked all day alongside their fathers, and women at home with their mothers. Vital knowledge that was once passed down from generation to generation has been lost
“Do you give your best to the people close to you?
Or do you expect them to accept your very worst?
Do you display strength, patience and self control with those you love, making them feel safe and valued by you?
Or do you expect your family to tolerate and support your weakest character traits (and exhaustion), while you give your best to your friends and your work?
Is home even where you really want to be?"